Thursday, June 26, 2014

"For the Children's Sake" Part 1

Beginning formation of a philosophy of education is quite daunting. However, through blogs of other moms (like her and her and her) who are already homeschooling and have been for many years, I have come to be familiar with the name of Charlotte Mason. She was a nineteenth century Brit who developed her own system of education after years of being a schoolteacher herself. 

Last spring, I downloaded her six-volume series on kindle for only 99 cents. WIN! I began reading it... that's all. I just began. I haven't finished. It's crazy long, and somewhat dense, in that it requires thought, and thought requires time to think, and I just don't have much time right now. 

However, I have heard rave reviews of other books that sum up her philosophy, or reflect on it. One of those titles is For the Children's Sake by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay. Susan is the daughter of Frances and Edith Schaffer, whose names are familiar but I can't think of why - oh, he is a Christian theologian, author, and philosopher; thanks, Google! I do intend to eventually get through CM's six volumes, but for now, I have settled for checking out titles such as FTCS from the library. 
Charlotte Mason.jpgimage from Wikipedia

I am taking thorough notes, and reading through each chapter twice, but I still have a difficult time recalling what I have read (a CM education would have trained me to read through carefully and slowly and be able to retell what I have read - "narrate" the story). Because I would like to remember what is in the book, and because my notes are sloppy, and because I am likely to lose my detailed but sloppy notes, I have decided to blog my notes and occasional reflections. 
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Chapter 1- "What is Education?"
Author and husband were uneasy with the thought of putting their firstborn in school ;  put their daughter in a local school but felt it wasn't a good fit; didn't have an educational philosophy in place so they couldn't explain why. Didn't like the idea of her in a school as they knew it. "...want the best, but... often have to settle..." (3)
They found a "little school run in a cottage" that "still practiced the gentle art of an education based on a certain Charlotte Mason's ideas." (4) They sent their children there, and loved it. They read up on her ideas, found that they were relevant and made sense. Practices that can be universally applied, whether at home, in a school, in an African village, inner city school, daycare etc. 

CHARLOTTE MASON
Her views were shaped by her teaching experiences. She passionately believed that children are born persons and should be treated with respect for their individuality. Rooted in biblical Christianity. 
Her parents died when she was 16, but she carried on with her ambition and enrolled in a teachers' college. Because of financial stress, she accepted a job as a teacher of a small school after only a year, but continued her studies in her spare time. Fifteen (?) years later, she was appointed vice principal of the Bishop Otter College in 1874. There, she gave lectures on education. Four years after that, she was forced to give up the position due to ill health, but this allowed her more time for further study and observation. Began giving lectures to parents --> National Society of Parents: journals, curriculum guides --> Home schools, PNEU schools of CM-following parents. House of Education @ Ambleside was a teachers' training school. 

What happened? Why has no one heard of her today? Society moved away from strong Christian beliefs she used as her foundation. 
"Christians can't develop a Christian view of education by accepting the usual aims and views of our society and then adding a 'Christian message' or interpretation." (7). 
Education is lifelong, active state of learning, responding, understanding. CM believed parents have "the most interesting and valuable vocation that exists among mankind." (8). Home as basic educational environment. Different applications of these ideas for diff families, even diff children within same family. Take care not to judge others' schooling choices.
 "It can often be that a strong, rich home life with Christian teaching and understanding more than offsets the 'center of gravity' at a secular school." (8-9).
 Adults should be involved in the secular systems as Christian salt. 
"Any choice and/or arrangement should be done for the children's sake... Galatians 6:9 "Let us not grow weary of doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people [children are people], especially to those who belong to the family of believers."  "(9).
Matthew 7:7-11. Good gifts to children. We give our kids good food, which nourishes them. Don't want to give them junk food that might make them full but not nourished. Then don't feed their minds with junk food either. 
"Do we brush off the eager questions, and then expect the children to listen to some 'spiritual lecture' another time?" (10). 
Parents - evaluate priorities. Consider why you respond that you don't have time to do what the kid wants i.e. hike/camp/paint/talk with them. 
"What is really important? The sacred career? Educational institutions make poor substitute mothers, fathers, and homes. There has never been a generation when children have so desperately needed their parents' time, thoughtful creativity, and friendship....
One of the greatest powers for good is a family whose members respect each other and who have learned to function, however poorly, with the rich concepts the Word of God gives us as human beings. It is almost incredible to think of the stabilizing effect an ordinary family can have: not only for themselves, but as a light in a troubled generation." (10)
Other applications of CM principles would be a public school teacher as "a stable adult friend in a personally insecure world.... Even a glimmer of light can transform a dark world." Other ideas for application: in a church or Christian community; as a babysitter; daycare; after-school care; "friendly neighbor who gives the gift of helping that child who has nobody with time for him"; nieces, nephews, grandchildren; single adults have the advantage of extra flexibility:
"Children in need are in every church, school, and community. They are often emotionally adrift, without that sweet and natural security of their parents' marriage to give a base to their family life. Parents become tense and stressed, trying to fit fast-moving careers into ordinary human life. Schools become mechanical, where the child all too often doesn't really count. TV becomes a sedative, stilling active play, reading, talking, sharing. Planned activities crowd out personal growth and creativity. And the god of money, status, and personal ease and pleasure seeps in everywhere, like a noxious gas." (11).
Every child matters; bright or dull, privileged or troubled, each is valuable.

Monday, May 12, 2014

Expectation

We have spent most of the morning outside. Now we are in the living room, I on the computer (holding a sleeping [!] Aletheia) and Asher playing with his toys. I glanced over at him and watched as he made one of his Little People "boy"s ride a horse. "Ee-yup! Ee-yup!" 

Then he sneezed, and immediately looked over at me with a smile on his face - expecting, knowing what I would say. 

"Bless you!" I exclaimed. He smiled and turned right back around to continue playing. 

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Sunday, May 4, 2014

Aletheia - 1 month

Today Aletheia is one month old. I'd like to document some of the things that have happened in her first month... Or else I might forget.  
Obviously, she was born. Not the way I had hoped for, but everyone is healthy so it is okay. We had family come to visit us, and although I got very little sleep, I managed well. 

On Aletheia's first Sunday in church, she got to hear her Daddy preach - twice! Brandon got a call at 8am on a Sunday morning that our pastor was in the hospital and they would need him to preach. So much for indulging in my postpartum helplessness - Brandon was the one who needed support today! He preached his first Sunday morning sermon that day, and brought the Word faithfully. 


The next weekend was Easter weekend. Brandon went to Beacon Hill on Good Friday to help out with their annual outdoor Crucifixion reenactment. I would have liked to have gone to see him "play" Jesus, but Asher had just come down with a stomach bug. 

The next day, we had big plans. So I was hoping Asher would be feeling better. I figured I would see how he was feeling that morning, and if he didn't throw up and was acting ok, we would go. Well he slept til 10, but when he woke up he didn't have a fever, didn't throw up, and acted fine. I figured he had had a 24 hour bug or eaten something bad and it was out of his system. Well, an hour at Mamaw's and I was proven wrong. He vomited on her dining room floor right before the egg hunt. 

I felt awful for bringing him when there would be other kids around that he could infect, but I really thought he was better! 
Well anyways, he did feel better after vomitting, and he joined in the egg hunt, we ate, and then headed over to Grandma June's for Brandon's family's gathering. We had a great evening with everyone, and headed home. 


Sunday was Easter, and we had a great morning. There was no nursery for the morning service since the choir was performing the Easter cantata, so Asher and Aletheia stayed in the service with us. Asher did well throughout most of the service, but at the end we brought out the kindle. That was a mistake, because when it was time to hunt eggs after church, he highly objected to the kindle being taken away. We ended up carrying him home and he didnt hunt eggs at all. 

He just had a rough day on Easter. We wanted a family pic for Easter, and this^ was the best he could give us. 

Asher and Allie continue to bond, and Asher loves to "help" with her however he can. He "burt"s her, wants to hold her, gives lots of kisses and hugs, and helps buckle her into her car seat. 

The kids and I have visited Mamaw's house twice to visit (besides Easter) since Aletheia's birth. Asher loves exploring and visiting all the animals. I enjoy just spending time there with her. 


We have hung out at home and enjoyed the springtime

And we went to one of Nick's baseball games- the first one we have been able to make it to. Unfortunately, the game started much later than we had anticipated, and we only got to stay for the first two innings. We got to see Nick score! 
No pic of Nick, just us three because Asher was being all cute and putting his hand on me and Brandon alternately and saying with affection, "Mommy!" And "Daddy!" 

Asher helped Daddy build an awesome coffee table


Brandon's Grandpa Hazlerig and Grandma Janet came up for a visit this past weekend. We spent the day at our house with everyone, then ate dinner at Golden Corral. 

When we all returned to our house, each of us picked a derby horse (the race had already been run but we picked without looking at the results) and we watched the recording of the race from YouTube. Brandon's and Laila's pick won! (But I think Brandon cheats - he won last year, too!)

We have had a great month getting to know Aletheia and enjoying time with our families. It's particularly special because we will be leaving them soon for a while when we move to Louisville for seminary. So we are cherishing every moment! 

New Addition:)

Aletheia June Todd joined our family on April 7th, 2014. She weighed 8lb12oz, and was 20.75 inches long. She is a healthy, beautiful little lady and we are so thankful that God has given her to us. 

Asher has done SO well with the adjustment. He is such a sweet big brother. He enjoys helping "burt"/burp the baby, and is frequently asking to hold her. When she is in her bouncy seat, he will go up to her and give her kisses and hugs without being asked. He loves her! 
  
Holding her hand

I have not seen any jealousy at all in him. That was very surprising to me. Asher has always been a mommy's boy, and I feared he would feel threatened by the baby. Instead, he is protective of her and his independence is growing - sometimes to the detriment of my Mommy Nerves. 
He likes to climb up into the back of the truck by himself. Daddy's truck, which is parked on the CONCRETE over which he could FALL and do serious damage. Oh my, am I in for a worrisome motherhood. 


But while I love and cherish these baby days, I look forward to watching their bond grow with their bodies, and to seeing them laugh and play together. 


A few more random photos before I end this post: