tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348170042572898827.post2758729872847633314..comments2013-06-18T15:35:36.921-04:00Comments on The Todd Squad: Speaking KindlyGenciehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15148740176982637121noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348170042572898827.post-85500964150623850292012-06-25T09:59:13.070-04:002012-06-25T09:59:13.070-04:00I have in fact been studying through gentle speech...I have in fact been studying through gentle speech towards my husband. I have found I am a VERY honest person but lack the grace to speak lovingly. My piece of advice only works when you're about to fight (where I usually do the most damage) and I just breathe, he knows he can't push me here, I have to just go quiet so I can reign in the evil, poisonous thoughts that cloud my vision of the great man I married. I don't do on the fly well either, so when I do mess up I quickly (try) to ask for forgiveness and explain that I really didn't have time to keep that quick little dagger out, but I am working on it, and I'm very very sorry.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17306241065792582209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348170042572898827.post-46283919969821047952012-06-20T15:06:45.656-04:002012-06-20T15:06:45.656-04:00wow...I had a moment eerily similar to that, and i...wow...I had a moment eerily similar to that, and it was a definite eye opener, just like yours. It was a girl on our drama team, and I had snapped something...same exact scenario of apologizing that I wouldn't talk to her that way and the same cringe-worthy realization of...why, then, would I talk to my husband in that way?!?<br /><br />Thanks for sharing this post. It's something that I need to remember. We get more "comfortable" with those we're in contact with everyday but that's no excuse.Crystal @ Serving Joyfullyhttp://www.servingjoyfully.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348170042572898827.post-82839653015212293192012-06-20T12:33:54.315-04:002012-06-20T12:33:54.315-04:00A friend told me that the best advice she received...A friend told me that the best advice she received at her wedding was, "There is never a good reason to be unkind." I try to remember that. It's hard!<br /><br />My man recently pointed out to me that I often speak as if I am assuming he will never do some chore so I'll have to do it myself--when I haven't asked him to do it! Now, sometimes these are things that are supposed to be his responsibilities and he's behind schedule, but still, I can ask when he expects to get it done, and then if waiting that long is unacceptable to me I can tell him so, and even if it still results in my doing his chore this time, he will feel more respected and I will feel less resentful than if I just do it with a snarl! When it's a chore that we share responsibility for, it's even less fair to both of us for me to say, "I have to because you never will!!!" than, "Could you please?"<br /><br />Thanks for the reminder!Beccahttp://articles.earthlingshandbook.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348170042572898827.post-13043627448084167592012-06-20T11:19:02.019-04:002012-06-20T11:19:02.019-04:00This is hard for me, especially when I'm tired...This is hard for me, especially when I'm tired or stressed. I have to be intentional about it or my speech will snow ball. Thanks for this reminder!Christinahttp://www.toshowthemjesus.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348170042572898827.post-72771596460135314452012-06-20T09:56:50.177-04:002012-06-20T09:56:50.177-04:00This is an area that I find we have to be so very ...This is an area that I find we have to be so very intentional over. It's so easy to bark thoughtlessly when I'm tired or grumpy. That would be my only suggestion honestly: to practice with intention until a harsh word becomes the noticeable exception, in which we quickly apologize for. I'm working on it. Thanks for this reminder!Theresa Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05024811456434325066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348170042572898827.post-32750406504248442172012-06-20T09:12:29.068-04:002012-06-20T09:12:29.068-04:00I've found that I often treat worst those peop...I've found that I often treat worst those people I love the best, especially my husband. I have a bad habit of speaking before I think, but I've been working on slowing down my reactions and trying not to interrupt as much. A big thing for me is remembering that my husband (almost always!) has good intentions so I should NOT assume the worst about him, which I do unintentionally. Also, as you said, I want to be treated with kindness and respect, so it's important to treat my husband that way.<br /><br />I don't have a "trick" or anything that helps me remember...but I'm asking God's help to treat my husband as respectfully as I can.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455011518336150451noreply@blogger.com